Remember the old SNL skit with Stewart Smally? He use to say "you're are good enough, you're smart enough and doggone it, people like you!" As silly as some of the skits on SNL are, this one is one that has resonated with me for many years. How many of us have gone through life never thinking we were enough? It doesn't really matter what we are enough at. This blog is dedicated to all of those, including me, who have never felt like they were quite enough. We're going to explore and stop this negative way of thinking by the end of this blog.
I was one from early age who never felt like they measured up. I glossed over this a bit in my blog Fellow Weirdo's Unite. I was always sort of the girl who didn't fit in as I was not pretty enough, smart enough, athletic enough, blah blah blah. After I graduated from SMHS and found my bearings if you will, that feeling of not being enough continued but changed it's focus. After high school I started dating and got good grades in college. I thought I had found my niche, I had a good career but I never felt like I was quite enough. The feeling of not being quite enough transcended into my day to day living. I always felt second class, not quite there and frankly simply not good enough.
In 1989, I started paying attention to what I believed and how I was feeling. I badly wanted the chance to be a wife and mother and this I became. I was married for 19 years and then then sadly became a widow. Over these last 8 years after John died, I have done a lot of soul searching and have begun to see the world in a whole new way. I began to finally live the life I was meant to live and I have started to become me, the me I was meant to be. Now that I've bared my soul, I'd like to share a few ways I recreated my thoughts and ideas and hopefully some who feel like I did will take heart and apply some of my life lessons.
- You are who you are, you are whole, perfect and complete in the eyes of God. Basic and true.
- Live for you, no one else.
- No one else's ideas or opinions about you matter. This includes parents, teachers, siblings, spouses or friends.
- Morality does matter so live by the Ten Commandments of Life. These basic truths can be found in all spiritual thought of substance. I'm not preaching, just saying. The truest words ever written still survive 5000 years later. Find a Bible and look them up, Exodus 20:2-7 to be exact.
- No one is worth your time if they have no interest in you. Respect, love and kindness must be mutual between all of those you call a friend. If not, perhaps you need to reevaluate that relationship and move on. These people are those Energy Vampires and I've mentioned them in the past. They are not worthy of being your friend.
- Your self worth should NEVER be found in another's idea of you. Not much more needs to be said. Over the years I thought I found my self worth in what others thought of me. Once I opened my eyes and realized my self worth is found in my heart and soul, my thoughts shifted. It's a freeing feeling.
- Look into your heart and you'll find the Divine Source for all life. God lives in each and every one of us, look within and you'll find the greatest gift ever given.
- We are given free will by grace, use it wisely.
- Give thanks every day and look for the good in all situations. Gratitude is a gift from God.
- Forgive others and yourself. Forgiveness is not always easy but necessary in order to move forward to my final thought, that is...
- Look for all the blessings in life. Every situation should move you forward to the next. Blessing those situations and people will elevate you to the next level. Trust me, I've done it and feel at peace.
